Life isn’t fair, and that’s particularly true when it comes to the business world. No matter how successful you are, there’ll always be someone with a better office or a higher salary. It doesn’t matter if you should have gotten that promotion or received the credit for that killer presentation your team gave last month. Things won’t always work out in your favor, and that’s a recipe for jealousy.
And that can hold you back, according to Judith Orloff, author of the new book “The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life.” According to Orloff, success at work hinges on the ability to let to of jealousy, and in a post for BrazenCareerist.com, she offers up some expert tips for ditching the envy.
“Our relationship to power and success can often color both our self-image and how we view others,” she writes. “Someone who’s experiencing self-doubt and questioning her own success does the obvious thing: She compares herself to others who seem more at ease, more knowledgeable and more dominant and confident.”
Scroll down to read her tips for curtailing jealousy in the workplace.
1. Readjust That Attitude — Next time you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else, take five and make a conscious effort to shift your thinking and take stock of the good things in your life and career.
2. Practice Karma — “Give others what you most desire,” Orloff writes, and that means that if you want to feel more appreciated, you should learn to appreciate your coworkers. “What goes around comes around when you surrender comparisons,” Orloff adds.
3. Learn From Your Rivals — Rather than brood in the corner and hate on the guy or girl you think stole your promotion, take a look at what’s made them successful.
4. Be a Well-Wisher — Even if you don’t really mean it, Orloff writes, it’s important to root for your coworkers and wish them nothing but success. “When your heart is in the right place, you’ll become what you want to be,” she writes. “Praise yourself for all the baby steps you make in the direction of self-compassion and gratitude for your life.”