We all lead busy lives, and we all have giant laundry lists of things we’d like to get done. Wouldn’t it be great to snag a promotion at work, start eating healthier, and commit to having a cleaner house?

Sure, but where do you begin? In a great Black Enterprise post titled “Relax, Relate, Release: 4 Calm Steps to Accomplish Any Goal,” Yvelette Stines establishes a winning blueprint for success. It’s helpful for issues related to work, family, or day-to-day life. Take a deep breath and read on. Help is on the way.

1. Make a List — There’s something extremely powerful about putting things in writing. Stines suggests making a list of all of your goals and organizing them by topic. After that, select one in each category and establish a timeframe for when you’ll look to accomplish your goal. It’s at this point you should also make a plan. For instance, if the category is “health,” you might write that you’d like to run a 5K by the end of the year, and that you’ll hit the treadmill at the gym three days a week for two months in order to get yourself in racing shape.

2. Read the List Daily — One way to stay focused, Stines writes, is to read over your list of goals each day. “With a daily reminder you have your goal in mind and will be less tolerant of unnecessary distractions,” she writes. You should also undertake a weekly review, whereby you figure out which¬†goals you’re succeeding with and which ones you’re not. In areas where you’re falling short, try to figure out why.

3. Congratulate Yourself — While we often beat ourselves up when we fall short of our goals, Stines insists that it’s important to congratulate ourselves when we do a good job. Did you finish that big work project you’d been struggling with? Do something nice for yourself — you’ve earned it.

4. Show Some Gratitude — Stines advises giving thanks to a higher power and operating under the belief that everything is “aligned for the greater good,” but even if you’re not religious, it’s a good¬†idea to show gratitude to those who’ve helped you along the way. What’s more, believing in something bigger than yourself — even if it’s not a specific god or religion — can be a way of keeping things in perspective.